MIDDAT SDOM

*** PEDOPHILE ***

It would be ideal, once a child sexual predator has been identified, to issue a pill and erase this abnormal desire to have sex with children; but it is not that easy and it will not go away nearly that fast. Of all the predators I have listened to on internet chat lines, over the past ten years, they all seem to feel that what they have to offer little boys is exactly what these children crave. They have deluded themselves to the point that, when in a close social situations with boys as young as four, they actually sense that these children are the instigators of sexual activity. Consider this post from 01boy on Tuesday December 19, 2000.

"Out of my aoa For any of you that might know me from bc. Will know that my aoa is from 8-14. But I met the most awsome 5yo the other day at work. I know his 10yo brother that come's in quite often. We alway's flert around of course, but this week dad brought in little brother along with the older one. WOW what a suprise he was so cute! His tight jeans showing off his tight ferm lil butt. And his silky blond hair with big blue eye's you could get lost in, if you staired to long. And the mouse like voice. He was so tiny so cute and so cuddely. If I could I would have held him in my arm's and cuddeled him for aternity. I definitly have to rethink my aoa. Think? What's to think about? A bondle of love and joy running around not even aware of the profound efect he has on a bl such as my self. Smileing at me with a smile that could melt a bl in secent's. So ok i'm changeing my aoa. hugs!" (Read entire post inside).

aoa - Age of Attraction

bc - BoyChat, another pedophile site

bl - Boylover

This pedophile is lusting after a five-year-old little boy and has no problem in assuming that this child has an active sexual interest in him. His age of interest was 8 - 14...now he sees 5 as a more intriguing sexual age. And he has no doubts that his fellows will understand that this is a nice progression.

His jubilation at meeting this child and his assumption through fantasy that the child is interested in him, is classic narcissist behavior. What’s next? One-year-olds? Hugs!

*** PSYCHOPATH ***

Let us assume for a second that the ‘average’ psychopath is normal, for surely they think that they are, and that the rest of the world is crazy. Lets take a look at the world from their point of view while assuming that they are right. What the psychopath does first is to create another world because the one we require him to live in doesn’t work for him. The way he does this is with lies and manipulation. These lies and manipulations differ only slightly from those used by the narcissist, in that, the narcissist knows that his projections of self are false and lives in fear of being found out.

The psychopath, on the other hand, truly believes that his fabricated world is real. The psychopath makes up the ideal world which he chooses to live in and then proceeds to draw in anyone else that he can. Psychopaths, typically, are shrewd, glib and seldom either confused or caught in a lie because the world constantly changes to revolve around whatever particular lie they are living at the moment. What a wonderful world...but for the psychopath only. Anyone caught up in his life will experience confusion and doubt, and if you have fallen for his lies and actually care for this person, then you must continually buy into his lies. To do otherwise will either put you in harms way or reduce you, in his eyes, to one of ‘them’. ‘Them’ to the pedophile, refers to the law enforcement agencies, and various hate-mongers (mothers of young boys) who have sadistic designs upon his life. ‘Them’ to the psychopath will usually refer to anyone able to see through his lies. Where’s the big difference here? See :

"About Being Safe, Chapter 2." Anything you post here may be read by anybody in the world, including law enforcement agencies, and various hate-mongers whose sadistic purpose in life is to cause grief to loved boys and boylovers.

Should you stop believing in the deluded lies of the psychopath, then you are outside his sphere of interest. As the psychosis deepens, the typical psychopath requires younger and less knowledgeable victims. Herein, in my opinion, lies the classic behavior of the pedophile who constantly changes his age of attraction (aoa). Generally, from most of the research I’ve poured through, pedophiles are not usually physically abusive. They can not afford to be. To physically abuse a child (non-sexual violence) would mean that he is not a ‘boylover’. and this is an essential part of the deception he is straining to purport. He requires the rest of us to buy into his lies that he is a ‘boylover’ and not a rapist and sodomizer. Physical violence, of any kind, would reduce him to no more than an abuser of children and his fragile psyche is not stable enough to make this leap and maintain his delusions.

Although, when it does happen, all the walls come tumbling down and the psychopath/pedophile spirals down into the dark, empty abyss of abduction, rape, and murder of children. Children have gone missing for short periods of time often over the last 50 years, but they were usually found not too far away in short order. It wasn’t until 1990 after the serial pedophile William Thomas Clare was caught and arrested that pedophiles began to murder children after victimizing them. The only thing pedophiles seem to have learned over the past 50 years is how to protect themselves against prosecution. Additionally, psychopaths have an inability to form close loving relationships with their peers. Yet they are unusually preoccupied with their sexual conquest and have an obtuse need to brag about these exploits...exactly as every pedophile on the various internet chat sites does. Many of us have, at some time or another, come in contact with a variant of the social psychopath. 

*** NARCISSIST ***

 Psychologist have also documented that psychopaths and narcissist have poor word association skills when dealing with words which reflect human emotion. The reason is because they have no such emotions, therefore they find it extremely difficult to distinguish between emotional words and emotionally neutral words.

Look at that last pedophile post again, and study for a moment, this mans’ poor power of word association.

“I swear to you , tears are streaming down my face, they are pouring down as I type this, as I think of all the boys I have enteracted with during the week, and picture them lying in bed with their boxers on“.(Read entire post inside).

I find it particularly interesting that he spelled ‘interacted’ as ‘enteracted’ and I have no doubt that this was unintentional, given his current emotional state. He was subconsciously referring to boys he had ‘entered’ during that week.

Generally, psychopaths describe themselves as depressed, void, empty, or ‘shells’ of real people. Some even tend to think that they are living someone elses’ life while theirs is on hold somewhere, but they have no idea how to get to the other side.

“I go to work, I come home, I go to sleep. and I go to work again...I live in a country that I do not know, I'm surrounded by people who I do not understand...I do not love anyone, I am not loved by anyone, what am I doing here“? (Read entire post inside).

Perhaps this is the key that can yield an answer as to how these men can live in society. The childhood trauma which thrust so many of these men into an altered state can be eased with therapy. But no therapy will work unless these men want to be helped.

Unfortunately, as long as they have a major support group on the internet with which they can alternately tell each other, “You’re okay and what you’re doing is okay; Don’t listen to the rest of the world, just listen to us”, sadly, many will never seek any type of help to solve what they imagine to be a non-existent problem.

We can not help these men by hating them...yet we can not help our children by protecting them. We have to form a plan of action to keep children safe from men who have allowed their sexual boundaries to blur to such an extreme as to include little boys.

And it is imperative that society finds a place for these men. A place where they are not reviled but helped; and we have to do this without allowing them sexual access to young boys. Then again, what’s to prevent a ‘boylover’ from distinguishing himself from a pederast by becoming celibate?

Today, in my judgment, they are all the same. If there is ever to be a distinction made between the two stances, the pederast will have to do it because the helpless children can not. Maybe it’s time to require a social sacrifice from the abusers rather than the abused.